Services
Someone to Talk To
People often tell me that they don’t need a therapist because they have friends or family they can talk to. While that may be true, very few of us speak to friends or family without a filter, so ultimately we are still alone with our darkest, scariest, cringe-worthy, off the wall thoughts…and that’s where therapy comes in.
A Safe Place
Our head can be a scary place, the thoughts we think and the things that consume our mind are often things we have an intense amount of shame over. In order to avoid the shame, we try to ignore the thoughts, we push them aside, pretend that we actually didn’t mean to think them, tell ourselves that they were a one-time fluke and we try to exert control.
Taking Action
We begin to take action, we think if we can change the thing we had a thought about then everything will be ok. So we busy ourselves, the thoughts still come, so we do more, until we are only doing because when we stop and have a moment of free head space, the thoughts continue to come. Nothing works for long. We are stuck with the same problem but in a worse off state.
Individual Therapy
I am a holding space, a container for you. You get to come in here and unpack everything that’s in your head…the deep, the dark, the struggles, the everyday, the hopes and dreams, the judgments, the realities, all of it. There is no judgment, just space to open up and explore. We work together, I hold everything out in the open and we look at it, really look at it, maybe for the very first time. And once you feel like it no longer holds power over you, you get to decide if it’s something you want to keep, and you either hold onto it again, with understanding and acceptance-a shame free experience, or you let it go. It’s a beautiful process, but none of that happens alone.
Eating Disorders and Disordered Eating
Body Dissatisfaction. We all know what it is, we have all been there to varying degrees, but this is so much more than that. Whether we are standing in front of a mirror trying on clothes, catching a glimpse of our reflection, we recognize the pit in our stomach, the feelings of intense dislike, the feeling of shame about ourselves, and we link it to the image we see. That’s where the problem begins…we begin to control, and then control more, eventually it controls us and we are stuck, feeling like there is no way out. It is not about the relationship with the body so much, it’s about the relationship with the self. The body is just the vehicle we attach the dislike to because it’s the physical representation of the self. We desperately try to alter the body in hopes that we might start to feel differently about ourselves.
Couples Therapy
Whether you feel like you are living out a life sentence or are in a difficult season, there is help. There are better ways of being together. Life does not have to be lived separately yet side by side. Do you want durable? Do you want decades? Then let’s get started, let’s begin the work of bridging the gap of distance that has settled between you and your partner and let’s break the silence, calmly quiet the screaming, and find the center between you both.
Divorce-Proofing Your Relationship for Before & After the Wedding
What does it mean to divorce proof? How do we prevent marriage demise? We build strong relationships; relationships that are durable, that stand the test of time, patience, and hardship. We aren’t talking about once a year grand gestures or contrived movie style romance, divorce proofing is digging into the average, daily, unglamourous rhythms of relationships and making them truly beautiful. This is the work that prevents a slow fade into silence and tolerance. So, if you are in a relationship and you want it to last, you need eye to eye, toe to toe, secret revealing, heart-pounding deep connection. This is the stuff that moves your relationship from disposable to durable.
Coaching
Here’s the thing…we all have goals, the problem isn’t the goal, the problem is often that we know exactly what we need to do in order to achieve our goal and yet we don’t do what we know and believe we need to. Coaching is not therapy. Coaching is a much more external process. It’s about identifying a goal and figuring out how to make that goal a reality. It’s about logistics or the lack thereof, identifying barriers, exploring solutions, and having accountability. Coaching is concerned with the external process of getting to a goal and establishing ways that are tailored specifically to you and your needs that will get you there.